Since my last post on October 24th, (yes, not two weeks like I originally said, I know...) I've been to two tinier cities in Germany. These were all day trips, but nevertheless they added to my now long list of places I've been. I traveled with mainly the same group of friends to both places.
Before I go into detail though, perhaps it is important that I tell you that I have been lately on a terrible sleeping schedule, ever since the Xbox started working. Therefore I have been sleeping from about 8-10 am until about 4-6 in the evening. Not good I know, and it was during this cycle that I took my first day trip with my friends. For this, I stayed up the entire night and trooped it out, hoping to get back on a good sleeping schedule. (it worked for about a day...)
Our first trip was to Freiburg, a town about thirty minutes from Switzerland, about a few weeks back. We were here to see a soccer match, and for soccer fans, the German Bundesliga is a very popular league, with great teams such as Bayern and Dortmund. Today's match wasn't between superpowers like them, but the match was important in determining the rankings of both teams. Just ask our trip organizer and Freiburg fanatic Fabio. Fabio was the exchange buddy for one of my friends, and he was always helpful and therefore became a good friend. It was great that he decided to organize this. Freiburg boasts SC Freiburg, not the best competitor in the Bundesliga, but nevertheless it gives Freiburgers something to be proud of. Today they played Hertha BSC Berlin, and the game turned out to be quite an event. Several questionable calls were made that prevented what would have been a slight upset, but in the end it came to a 2-2 draw, with fans booing, throwing beer glasses onto the field, beginning to start fights, etc.
Speaking of which, it was interesting to me to see the spirit of the soccer fans going into Freiburg and leaving. As we got closer to Freiburg, the fan bases of both sides starting getting larger and larger as we picked up more people at different stations. Soccer is a much bigger deal in Europe, and the fans make sure you know who they are cheering for on the train. It often became very loud on this train, with the fans shouting their respective chants and songs. I decided to buy a scarf for the Freiburg side, and I got terrible glares from those representing the opposite team (and even exchanged some words with them).
The phrase on this scarf definitely symbolizes what I got out of the trip to Freiburg: "Einmal Freiburger, immer Freiburger" (English: Once a Freiburger, always a Freiburger). I continue to follow the team today, and I hope to follow them as well upon my return to the US.
The group touring the town |
At the entrance of the stadium with the mascot himself. Notice how the opposing fans, young and old, try to ruin our picture in the background. They take this stuff seriously... |
Inside the stadium in Stehplatz S ("standing place S") |
My next stop was about two weeks ago to one of the many Weihnachtsmarkt (Christmas Market) locations in Germany. This was one was right in the neighborhood, about 30 minutes by train from Mannheim (Mannheim also has its own Christmas Market). At these markets you can find many culturally German chocolates, ornaments, children's toys, and the famous Glühwein. It is a wine, probably mixed with a few other spices, and served quite hot. It unexpectedly really brought out the Christmas spirit in all of us that were there.
A googled (but correct) image of one of the parts of the Weihnachtsmarkt |
Last week, I went ice skating with many friends at a place in nearby Ludwigshafen. Nothing out of the ordinary happened here, except that it was an outside rink, and the weather was quite appropriate for the occasion: rain/snow and very cold.
Huddling in the cold |
Taking a break |
And now comes the part of my blog that I have not been looking so forward to to writing, beginning as far as back as the first post several months ago. The sad reality is...these past few days have been dedicated to studying for final exams, and with the conclusion of final exams comes the long journey back home. I have had mixed feelings about returning "home"...and in some ways I have a fear of going back. Living in one place for five months allows one to gain an understanding of his or her new surroundings, to meet new people, to understand the daily lifestyles of this new place,...to forget about where they really come from. Going back to something familiar takes these everyday learning experiences away. Well, maybe not entirely, we learn new things every day. But the fact of the matter is, if we're used to it, then its nothing new, and that is what the hardest part for me will be, the moment I arrive in back in Richmond. But in reality I have mixed feelings about going home, and this is why. I've traveled numerous times, to new places, with new friends, but certainly not for an extended amount of time. And this is the only way I can explain how I am feeling right now:
Those past traveling experiences for me were short, no more than three weeks. In this amount of time, you're only beginning to understand and appreciate the culture when it's time to board the flight home. Therefore the sadness of leaving, to me, is much greater in terms of leaving new friends (you're only beginning to understand them as well), and not so much the culture. One would think that being somewhere for five months would certainly make it harder to leave than a short, three-week trip. But here is where one of my honest excitements about going home lies. Being around people for too long can really drive someone crazy after a while. This is not an extreme case for me, and I'm certainly not implying that this means I am annoyed with people here. Not at all. It just means that it will be nice to see old friends again, family, and others that are close to me.
However, that is the only reason that brings me excitement of going home. Everything else brings sadness to me. I have indeed met many new people, traveled to new lands, become just about "fluent" in another culture. If you go back to my very first post, you will read that fluency to me is not just language, but it encompasses language and culture together. I believe I have achieved this goal to the best extent one can do in five months. And now that I'm just about use to it, and not merely beginning to understand it as I have in my previous travels, it makes the home-going very difficult. I will once again experience the "reverse culture shock" that people experience when returning home. Going back to what I said earlier, this reverse culture shock will differ from my previous travels, which lasted only a few weeks, in certain ways. The seeing of old friends and family will make it a pleasant experience, but the time I have spent away from home being accustomed to a new culture will make it a difficult one.
Here is a perfect example: In the summer of 2010 I traveled with strangers to China for two and a half weeks. Over that period of time, I began to know these people and like them. Because the trip was so short, I didn't really begin to "understand" the Chinese culture. Therefore, my reverse culture shock when back in the USA didn't consist of seeing old friends and family again, as I had only been without them for two weeks, but rather it consisted of me missing my new friends from China, and not so much China itself.
Germany will serve as just about the opposite, I believe. I have been here much longer, and thus I have known my new friends much longer, which also means that "we've had our time together." On other trips you will often hear people say "I can't believe we're only together for two weeks!" whereas on this experience you will here people say "Oh don't worry, we have five months to do that." I understand the German culture and have become accustomed to living in it. Therefore, my revere culture shock when back in the USA will consist of being happy to see old friends and family, as I've been without them longer, but I will miss Germany itself very much.
I've been through many experiences with these new friends in Germany, unlike China, and therefore what needs to be said and done with each other has had the time to be said and done. So, therefore, leaving these new friends behind will be bittersweet. Being away from them will help me adjust back to what I'm used to, but thinking about them will certainly make me miss Germany, but also bring back fond memories of my time here.
It is very complicated to put into words, I know, but I hope you can understand what I mean. And these thoughts will be swirling around in my head come five days from now, when I board that long, inevitable flight to cross that annoying ocean, isolating me from everything else in the world, back to what is familiar to me, and therefore away from things that, even after five months, I'm just beginning to learn, love, and understand.
And thirteen hours later I'll be thinking to myself, "did that really just happen...?" Yes, it did...and it has, as they all say, been a dream come true, a life-changing experience. I would like to thank everyone who supported me in my decision to go abroad; my family, my friends, my teachers and professors. I look forward to seeing you all very soon, and telling you about what I've learned and done here. And as for my new friends here in Germany, I just want to say thank you for...everything. These experiences would have never been the same without you, and I feel like I am in debt to all of you (Literally, I think I still am...Zach, Cassandra, Elli?) It is very unfortunate that all good things must come to end.
And so it is; this is the end of my latest adventure. Tschüß Deutschland. Danke für alles, und ich verspreche, dass ich eines Tages zurückkommen werde. Es lebe die Deutschen!